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Reminder to ourselves: mati, binasa, leta

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Okay, I think it's time for brief summary of what is going on the past month.
In a nutshell, I became very very busy. Like 活该 right?

I guess you could say I deserved it. I really am.
But the difference between you and me is, I don't complain.




Okay maybe there are times where people are really doing stupid things and not listening at all, and it gets a little frustrating, but according to Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, don't criticise, condemn, or complain because it will never result in the behavior we desire.

Criticisms, condemnations or complaints most of the time come from emotions. As we put it in Malay:

Ikut hati mati,ikut rasa binasa, ikut mata leta. [To follow the heart is to die,
To follow the emotions is to perish,
To follow the eye is to despise.]
More often than not such emotions are not built over a day. In fact, it takes long periods of interactions for people to build understanding and trust. When I say "interactions" they…